A man can achieve himself only if he can restrain himself.
have heard such a funny story:
an aunt was walking in the square when she saw an old man writing big characters on the ground with a sponge pen.
the old man glanced at his aunt and wrote the word "get out".
Auntie got angry as soon as she saw it and thought, "do you want to take a look?"
the old man looked at his aunt again and wrote the word "get out". The old woman couldn't help it any longer and kicked the old man to the ground.
when the passer-by asked what was going on, the old man said aggrieved:
"I just want to write 'Rolling the Yangtze River to the East', but as soon as I wrote two words, I was kicked down by this psychopath."
although the story is ridiculous, it makes people laugh and sigh.
there is a good saying:
be angry for three moments and wait for three days for everything.
it illustrates a simple way of doing things: don't be impatient, be patient for three moments, and wait for three days.
if you endure something that makes people angry, you will become much calmer and will not do something wrong on impulse.
when you encounter trouble, wait a minute, gather your thoughts before making a decision, and then you will deal with it rationally.
be angry for three moments
A few days ago, I saw something like this on Weibo:
A couple in Linfen, Shanxi Province, went so far as to set their car on fire because of their emotional quarrel. Even so, they were still angry. Instead of fighting the fire, they started to fight in front of the burning car.
the result not only attracted people as a laughingstock, causing traffic jams, but also attracted law enforcement officers.
some netizens commented like this:
impulse is the devil, in any case should not set fire to the car, in case of an explosion, hurt themselves but also hurt others, the consequences are unimaginable.
think about it, it is true that the couple quarrel is a common trifle. Because they can't stand it, the trifles become bigger and cause a vicious incident.
Feng Menglong said in "awakening the World": "
if you don't think twice, you will regret, and you can endure a hundred things without worry.
the consequences of emotional loss of control are small disorder and loss of dignity, while big ones will lead to disaster and even lifelong regret.
there is such a plot in the movie Let the bullets fly:
Liuzi ate a bowl of cold noodles, and the owner of the cold powder shop was blackmailed by Hu Wan, the housekeeper of Huangfu, and framed him for eating two bowls but giving only one bowl of money.
Liuzi felt greatly insulted and insisted that he had only eaten one bowl.
Hu Wan stimulated him to say, "obviously you ate two bowls, but you only paid for one bowl. isn't that bullying honest people?"
Liuzi completely collapsed, took out a knife and cut open his stomach to prove his innocence.
before he died, Hu Wan smiled proudly and said:
"I know you only ate one bowl, and I just want to see the end of you now."
the result of Liuzi impulse is:
not only was he trapped by others, but his own behavior also became meaningless. instead of sympathizing with him, people thought he was stupid and broke up after watching.
only he paid a heavy price for his actions and lost his life in vain.
Confucius said, "tolerance is the foundation of a hundred deeds."
if people become slaves to their emotions and act on emotion, they can only be happy for a while, but there will be endless troubles.
and put up with it when you are angry, you can distinguish the pros and cons and make a correct judgment when you are calm.
wait three days for everything
the ancients said: "
when things are urgent, they change; when things are slow, they are round.
this is a warning to people that things should be slow rather than urgent.
there is such a short story:
once upon a time, there was a man who came across a precious purple sand teapot and loved it so much that he even put it at the head of his bed at night.
when he woke up, he was very upset and thought to himself that the lid of the kettle was gone. What was the use of keeping the kettle?
so he grabbed the teapot and threw it out the window.
the man regretted it and thought again that the teapot was gone, so what was the use of keeping the lid, so he stepped on the lid and crushed it.
walking out the door, the man looked up and suddenly saw the teapot thrown out last night hanging intact on the branch.
after reading this story, I can't help feeling sorry for this man.
although it had happened, he still had two chances to be saved, but he was squandered by his eagerness and haste.
Zeng Guofan said: "everything should be dealt with peacefully and gently. If you are in a hurry, you may make a mistake."
wait for everything, don't make decisions blindly, give yourself more time to be calm and sober, and there may be a different turn for the better.
Heiko Nakamura, the author of "the World is worth it," is a woman who never messes up her life in front of her.
she believes that there is always a solution to things, but it takes a little time, don't rush for a while, and you must slow down, otherwise it will make the brain tired, and even if you put a lot of effort into it, it will be difficult to come up with a good idea.
so, even if something big happens, she will go to bed first and tell herself "we'll think about it when we wake up tomorrow."
BeautyAfter a good night's sleep, the exhaustion of the brain is swept away, new and positive ideas emerge, and the point of view of the problem changes.
"University" said: "know the end and then have a decision, set and then can be quiet, quiet and then can be at ease, and then can worry, worry and then can get."
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when you encounter something, if you can be like Heiko Nakamura, don't act in haste.
know how to slow down when something happens, and only by dealing with it slowly can your heart be calm.
only when you are calm and calm can you be calm and calm.
only when you are calm and calm can you think carefully;
only after careful consideration can you gain anything.
in this way, many things will be solved satisfactorily.
if you can control yourself, you can become yourself
I have seen an author write about a respected and beloved entrepreneur who rarely loses his temper with his subordinates.
whenever his subordinates make mistakes and cause losses to the company and want to report the details to him, he will refuse.
then he begins to make tea, drink tea or brush calligraphy and painting, or take a walk downstairs in the garden, wait for his peace of mind, and then ask his subordinates to report to the office.
the reason why he does this is to digest his bad emotions, and once he realizes that his anger is about to erupt, he takes the initiative to find a buffer for himself.
Wang Yangming once said, "if you can control yourself, you can become yourself."
A man can achieve himself only if he can restrain himself.
this is inseparable from two words: patience and stability.
there is a good saying: "boiling water can not see the reflection clearly, anger can not see the truth."
when a man is angry, he loses his mind, just like rolling boiling water; when he is stable, he can control the situation, like a calm lake.
and boiling water can not see the reflection of people clearly, only the calm surface of the water can see clearly.
therefore, all mature and rational people can put up with it when they have emotions and give themselves a little time to calm down.
when something happens, you can also stabilize yourself, put it down in advance, let yourself slow down for a while, and will not be disturbed easily.
the reason for "being angry for three moments and waiting for three days for everything" is that only in this way can we become a winner because of patience and become a great event because of stability.