Living your life well is the most important thing in this life.
when people are young, they tend to be in high spirits, and they are blatant about who they like and who they hate.
until I have experienced more, I understand that many people don't get along with each other, and no one is right or wrong, it's just that the values are different.
philosopher Kant said:
"I respect any independent soul, although I do not agree with some, but I can understand as much as possible."
it is instinct to "lift the table" because you hate someone; it is an ability to hate someone and treat him calmly.
hate a person, there is no need to fall out
share a story:
once, Confucius saw his student arguing with a man.
the man asked, "
how many seasons are there in a year
Confucius' students answered: "
the man insisted that there were three seasons in a year, and the two argued about it.
the man left with satisfaction. The students of Confucius looked confused.
"didn't you see the green all over that man? He's a grasshopper. Grasshoppers live in spring and die in autumn. They have never experienced four seasons. Isn't it a waste of time to argue with him about the four seasons? "
in our lives, we sometimes encounter people like the "three seasons" in the story. as soon as we come into contact with them, we find that we look at the world from different angles, and we are not the same kind of people at all. If we just fight for the heights, we will not only bother but also waste our lives.
the most advanced way to deal with it is not to get angry, not to argue, not to pester.
he is strong by him, the breeze blows the hills; he lets him cross, and the moon shines on the river.
it is better to look down upon people than to despise them
sometimes, even if they don't get into trouble, some people will "come to the door".
A contemporary writer like Yu Guangzhong, Li ao, who is called a "madman", has a hobby of cursing others.
but he could not provoke Yu Guangzhong.
Li ao called Yu Guangzhong a "flattering poet" and adapted a poem by Yu Guangzhong to mock him:
sad brown-nosing, smelly flattering, patting for you,
sad new poems, shameless new poems, written for you.
many people feel aggrieved for Yu Guangzhong, but like nothing else, he neither gets angry nor fights back, just doing his own thing leisurely.
later, someone asked Yu Guangzhong, he said:
"he kept scolding me, but I kept silent. This shows that he can't live without me, and I can live without him. "
it is better to look down upon people than to look down upon them.
Don't get angry, don't let other people's mistakes punish you, and don't let other people's rudeness influence your mood.
Life is so precious that it should be used to chase good things one after another, rather than exhausting in the struggle with enchantments.
when you encounter bad people and bad things, leave in time to do more meaningful things, embrace the beauty of life, and live a better self, is naturally the best way to fight back.
Let go of other people's mistakes and free your own heart
psychologist Yakos said: "90% of the misfortunes in our lives are caused by reluctance."
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it is true that a lot of people's pain is due to being difficult with themselves.
when others casually say something unpleasant, they turn around and forget it, but we are sad for more than half a year because we are not reconciled to it.
when low-quality people deliberately do offensive things, often because they are not reconciled, they do not hesitate to spend a lot of energy and money to compete.
A relationship, knowing full well that if it goes on, it will be stuck in a quagmire, and there will be no result, but it will still be entangled endlessly.
those who walk briskly in life do not go well with the wind, but they shake hands with life and make peace with themselves. They are less critical and more lenient to themselves. Many troubles will float away with the wind, and many problems will be easily solved.
take an impassable road, just turn a corner; when you meet an unreasonable person, you can make a detour, and you don't have to embarrass yourself and torture yourself for the sake of people who are not worth it or bad things.
No matter how bad the situation is, let go in time, stop the loss in time, turn the story in time, don't regret for missing the gorgeous summer flowers, then you will miss Jingmei Akiba.
as a famous saying goes, "No one can go back and start anew, but everyone can create a new future from the present."
everyone has only 24 hours a day. If you delay one more second on something you worry about, the time of happiness will be shortened by one second.
hate a person, there is no need to fall out, the best way is not to argue, ignore, do not entangle.
neither fight with the villain nor hold a grudge against the villain, but try to manage his own life.
after all, living a good life is the most important thing in this life.