Follow the heart, live your own life, live up to this short life.
A young man asked the eminent monk, "Master, why do I always accomplish nothing?"
the eminent monk asked him, "how have you spent these decades?"
the young man replied honestly:
"I originally wanted to paint, but some people said it was futile, so I didn't paint any more. Later, when I wanted to write, some people said I had no future, so I stopped writing. Later, I wanted to study medicine, but some people said it was too hard, so I didn't take the exam."
the eminent monk sighed, "you always live in other people's mouths. How can you live a wonderful life?"
as the eminent monk said, life is short, and people who always live in the mouths of others are doomed to live a bad life.
No matter how capable you are, some people will pick out the thorns
viewers who have seen the Strange Story must be very impressed by Ma Weiwei.
the golden queen, who is famous for her sharpness, won the first place in the competition.
after the end of the first season, everyone criticized her for being mean and sharp.
so when she recorded again, she began to try to make herself look softer.
but after the program was broadcast, some people began to ridicule her for her poor condition and lack of edge.
later, Ma Weiwei began to tell sharp jokes again, and the audience accused her of "being held hostage by money" and "utilitarian".
who would have thought that this time the audience still did not buy it.
everyone said in disappointment, "Ma Weiwei, why aren't you like yourself?"
after all this, Ma Weiwei fell into a breakdown and even suffered from depression.
in the fifth season, she cried on the stage and said she would never find her glowing self.
have read a sentence:
"if you are a tree, other people's attitude towards you is wind after wind." If you always care, any gust of wind will shake you violently and even blow you down. "
there is no absolutely perfect person in this world, and there is nothing that cannot be judged.
people who like to tell us what to do, no matter how strong you are, no matter how well you do it, they can pick out the fault.
those who care too much about the attitude of others will become weak no matter how strong they are.
as Zhou Guoping said:
"if it hurts, just because you care, the more you care, the more painful it will be. As long as you don't care, you can't hurt a hair. "
what really hurts you is not the opinion of the outside world, but your heart that cares too much.
No matter how nice you are, there are people who don't like you
during the reign of Emperor Taizong of the Tang Dynasty, there was a famous prime minister named Xu Jingzong.
one day Taizong called him to his side and asked him:
"in my opinion, among the civil and military ministers of the Manchu Dynasty, you can be said to be the most capable one. But there are still some ministers talking about your rights and wrongs in the memoir. Can you tell me why? "
Xu Jingzong replied honestly:
"for farmers, Rain Water in spring can nourish everything and bring a bumper harvest, but to pedestrians, muddy roads are tiresome.
for the literati, the bright moon in the sky is the source of creative inspiration, but in the heart of the thief, such light has become an obstacle to his theft.
even God can't satisfy everyone, not to mention that I'm just an ordinary person. "
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it is true that no one in the world can satisfy everyone.
No matter how good you are, there will always be people who don't like you; whatever you do, there will be people who can't get along with you.
it's like the well-known story of father and son riding donkeys.
the father riding the donkey is cruel, the son riding the donkey is unfilial, and the two become cruel together.
in the end, the two people simply come down and lead the donkey, but they will still be accused of being "stupid".
you know, not all fish live in the same sea area.
some people have only one mouth and never intend to know the real you.
people who don't like you, no matter how much they please, they won't stop criticizing.
people who don't understand you, no matter how they explain it, they won't understand you.
it is difficult for a skillful cook to cook a meal for a hundred people, but one person is difficult for a thousand people.
always take other people's words to heart, and you lose.
Life is not easy, learn not to care, and you win.
words are in the mouths of others, but the road is at your own feet
I remember an interview in which a reporter asked the writer Feng Tang what he thought of him by the outside world.
he replied lightly, "those comments, good or bad, are none of my business. It's all their business."
indeed, if you want to live freely in this life, you need to have some courage that "it's none of my business".
No one can stop other people's comments, but you can choose not to listen.
when you are firm enough in your heart, the words of the outside world are just a blink of an eye.
Mo Yan's works have not been published for a long time since he won the Nobel Prize for literature.
many people in the outside world have openly and secretly questioned that he was "at the end of his talents" and "lost in fame and wealth."
in the face of these shadowy comments, he never explained them publicly, but replied faintly:
"it's hard for outsiders to get into their hearts, they just measure you by their own standards. It is you who really judge yourself the most. "
Last October, his new book, the late ripening Man, which he had polished for many years, was quietly published.
received rave reviews in just a few months, becoming the most powerful response to all criticism.
as written in the Forest of Norway:
others are just passers-by, and only you are at the helm of your own life.
instead of being afraid of hands and feet in the eyes of others, it is better to settle down and do things.
learn to block the noise of the outside world in order to live in your own rhythm.
go your own way, and time will prove it for you.
if you can't control other people's mouths, keep your heart
there is a good saying on the Internet:
"I never value the opinions of others. I know it's hard to say. I just like it.
I don't care about other people's comments. I'm not his wisdom tooth. No matter how I say it, it doesn't affect me.
I never envy other people's lives. How they live has nothing to do with me. The most important thing is to have a good life. "
who is alive, who is not said by others.
far away, not in other people's mouths, but at your feet.
what we really care about is not the opinions of others, but what we think inside.
Don't be easily shaken by the noise of the outside world, and don't kidnap yourself by the standards of others.
you don't have to cater to or please anyone but yourself.
those comments and criticisms, let them all drift away with the wind.
for the rest of your life, you just go your own way.
you know, there are thousands of forms of sentient beings, but none of them can compare with the appearance that you are loyal to yourself.
only by following your heart and living yourself can you live up to this short life.