someone once asked me:

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"I miss someone very much, but I don't want to get in touch with each other. Why?"

I replied to him:

"Love is presumptuous, deep love is restraint, not all love is hidden in contact, in fact, the day of disconnection is sometimes the time when a person loves most."

like some men, they miss you very much but don't contact you, which is probably for this reason.

in a relationship, women are always more likely to reveal their feelings, while men are used to secretly digesting them.

this is true when we are together, and when we are apart.

when a man clearly misses a person, but can refrain from contacting him, it is he who chooses to bear all the pain silently.

you might as well think about it: if your life is already very good, that man is not doing well, he wants to see you, and now he suddenly appears in your world, do you think he is very selfish, this is a kind of disturbance to you?

so some people are used to keeping all their thoughts and pain in their hearts.

because the past has passed, when you touch memories, you can see the unforgettable sweetness.

but more is the helplessness of separation, and those heartbreaking memories.

so he will be afraid, if he rashly contacts you and brings up your memories, but you can never go back, it will only add to your regret and sadness, which he does not want to see.

as the French writer Roman Roland said:

"when you really love someone, you will forget your own joys and sorrows, and only care about each other's joys and sorrows."

he doesn't want to see you suffer more than what he suffered in lovesickness.

therefore, he chooses to bear it alone and miss it alone.

Don't mention the past, life is full of ups and downs. Even if the memory can not be erased, love and hate are still in my heart.

time is like a knife to cut the past, and the past is like drunken today. But after a lot of drunkenness, people always wake up.

when love is a thing of the past, no matter how much you can't let go, you have to learn to let go, and no matter how much you don't want to give up, you have to learn to give up eventually.

mature men, no matter how much they miss the past, they will know very clearly that no matter how beautiful they are, they can only be the past, and no matter how good they are, they are already old friends.

one of the required courses for adults is not to indulge in the past, to learn to say goodbye to the past, and to break up with the past.

I have heard such a sentence:

"the best love is probably to wish you happiness, even if it has nothing to do with me."

and only love can not reach this level, only truly love one person will hope that the other party has a good life. Even if this happiness has nothing to do with you, it doesn't matter.

have been together, hoping to give you the best in the world, hope you have a happy every day, and hope to give you the best future.

after separation, know that you can no longer give you the future you promised, although there will be unreconciled, although inevitably feel sorry, but in front of your happiness, these are not worth mentioning.

because for someone who loves you deeply, your happiness is always the most important thing.

it's like this sentence:

"there is a kind of love that is all blessings except fulfillment."

therefore, no matter how much men miss someone, when they know that they are doing well without themselves, they often choose not to contact or disturb them.

stand in the distance and bless silently. I hope you won't suffer any more for the rest of your life.

do not disturb, is his last tenderness, but also his distant waiting.

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people will be reunited and separated, and the moon will be full and missing.

not every relationship is lucky enough to turn white, and not every couple can get married in the end.

therefore, those who have been lost, silently put down, distant wishes, the fate to spend a period of warm years together, is rare, do not forget.

of course, if you can't, you can't force it, but please remember this sentence written by Wang Xiaobo:

"if you want to, I will love you forever. If you don't want to, I will miss you forever."

after all, life is just a process, living for yourself, loving for yourself, and following the fate of your heart is also a way of living.